Is trust really broken or has trust ever been there?
People always claim that they trusted someone so much and got betrayed..
If there is complete trust, there shouldn’t be suspicions or any leeway for others to come into the picture to break the relationship just by small little actions to imply that the other person cannot be trusted…
Why is it so that anyone can come in so easily to change everything and all that they have gone through just in a very short timeframe?
Why are there people whom are so capable of destroying others’ relationship and then still carry on their lives unaffected?
What is the purpose and aim of such people? What do they gain?
There are so many things I have queries about…
These are questions that can never be confronted straight in the face. Some may disagree…but if you are not closely related to the people involved, who will reveal the truth to you?
Furthermore, human beings only like to hear nice things… they pretend that they can accept criticism if brought across in a diplomatic or right way. For some, they keep quiet and reflect and try to improve. Some just want to ‘win’ the situation by defending themselves with all the logical reasons they can think of…
We don’t want to judge and we shouldn’t. But in the first place, why did the problem occur?
If you really trust a person, would you even be affected by other’s negative comments on him/her? Or is it because ironically when you think and announce to the world that you trust this person, you are actually the person that doesn’t trust him/ her completely?
A lot of relationships are destroyed based on trust.
If you google the word “trust”, the first definition that comes up is:
firm belief in the reliability, truth, or ability of someone or something.
“relations have to be built on trust”
Then may I ask, if in the first place there is a firm belief, why is it so that it can be altered so easily? Why is the relationship so vulnerable?
The most common answer I have heard from different walks of life is “Because they have been hurt and they have forgiven, but history keep repeats itself. And there is a tolerance level to everything..”
This is toxic. It’s a drug. You have not forgiven. You are not so benovelent. So stop acting. *laugh out loud*
It’s precisely you have not forgiven; that’s why you keep repeating it to yourself and to others. If you cannot forgive, just admit it! It’s healthier and better for the relationship…
It’s only by admitting that you cannot forgive, and accepting the problem, that you have a better understanding of each other.. then you can grow together… be it a friend, or your partner…
Yes. It’s crude. You can hate me for saying all of the above. But it’s just my blog… my Xinful Thotz…